Think you’re going crazy!?!? It’s not you, every parent feels that way! 

Do you think you’re going crazy?

I hear this all the time from moms I know well, moms I cross paths with in the shops and when I talk to myself in the mirror 🙂

 

Reasons why you may feel crazy

There are a LOT of factors which contribute to feeling like this –

  • having a child or children constantly attached to you like a koala bear
  • sleep deprivation (need I describe this further)
  • guilt. guilt that you’re not the best SAHM or guilt that you work or guilt that one child gets more attention than another. we could probably dedicate an entire post to Mom Guilt
  • being stuck indoors with a sick child
  • trying to balance all the families needs and all their personalities

 

What’s the solution

You need a time out my friend. Not a stay in the naughty corner or go to your room time out but a YOU focused time.

 

Time out from those people you love unconditionally.

 

It may sound cold but as soon as you get to your destination you’ll want to go back immediately. After you’ve actually completed your YOU focused activity you will be so refreshed you’ll understand the value.

 

Some ideas to stop the Crazy

 

So here are some excellent ideas, well according to me 🙂

 

  1. Spoil yourself. Get a manicure or a pedicure. I think this is one of my favorites because it’s a great time out with the added bonus of feeling pretty. In a similar vein you could get a facial or a massage.  going crazy being a mom
  2. Take a Class.  You can go during the evenings or on the weekend. Take a class or group that is just about you. I’m doing Yoga and I am horribly bad at it but I’m going to try stick it out.
  3. Go have tea or coffee somewhere pretty. I find it sometimes refreshing to go with a friend who is in the same boat. That way when you look at each other with that vacant expression you both understand. My friend and I have spent a hour together and landed up repeating the same questions over and over again and laughing because we can’t remember what we were talking about.
  4. Grab a Drink: Meet up with a friend for a drink or two. If you live in the suburbs like we do and you want to venture into the City, you can arrange the child handover with your partner at the station or bus stop. This way your partner gets a ride home and you get a ride out. motherhood driving you crazy
  5. Shop, Alone! Go do your seasonal clothes shop. For me this is generally limited to sale season and the outlets because I love a bargain. Or just do your grocery shopping alone. You will never believe how much easier it is to do this without kids in tow. Without kids, there is no pram, no whining, no handbag spewing out nappies, snacks and drinks.

 

I hope you take my advice and do one of these things, maybe even more than one and maybe even more than once.

 

Good luck and remember – you deserve it! I may even take my own advice.

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2 thoughts on “Think you’re going crazy!?!? It’s not you, every parent feels that way! 

  1. As a fellow SAHM, I know that this is what I SHOULD be doing, but I can probably count on one hand the number of times I’ve actually done it in as many years!

    I feel guilty about doing things for me. I feel guilty about spending money on myself when finances are tight and my girls have things that they need (hence why I have worn the same battered, holey boots for the last 2yrs). I feel guilty about blogging because I worry I should be spending my time more wisely / productively.

    Looking at this on paper now makes it seem a little silly – why are everyone else’s wants and needs more important than mine? But, as a SAHM, so much of my time is taken up with caring for everyone else’s needs that I’ve sort of forgotten how to work out what my own needs are.

    Sorry for the long, rambly comment! Thought-provoking post.

    1. [email protected] says:

      Lucy, thank you for your comment. Its not rambling at all – its how our minds work when we think about ourselves – we can be perfectly thoughtful and insightful when it comes to our kids’ needs or our family’s needs but when its us who are the focus its hard to realise what we need.

      You need to do something for yourself! You really really need to! And it doesn’t have to cost anything, ask a family member or a family friend to watch the kids while you sit in your room and read a book or hide in the car and have a chocolate bar. One of my favourites is to sleep (ha ha – ridiculous I know).

      I also struggle with those issues about blogging and I know most mom’s who blog do! But for me it is cathartic and I find that it helps me organise my thoughts and feelings additionally it has opened up a whole creative side to me which I am really enjoying. Keep at it and set time aside for it and do not feel guilty about it.

      Thank you for reading the post and opening up this line of discussion. I am so glad you thought about You for once, and realised that you need to make your needs a priority too! xx

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