Immigrating Part 4: Settling in Australia 

Immigrating Part 4: Settling in Australia 

The context of this post 

Settling in Australia is the third part of a four part series describing my thoughts and feelings about immigrating from South Africa to Australia. If you’re in the process of making this move yourself I would suggest that you start from Part 1 and move through the series in order. It’ll help you get a better understanding contextually of how we got to be where we are, geographically and mentally. 

Settling In Australia 


Immigrating is difficult even when it’s easy


Immigrating is difficult even when it is easy. I thought we were doing fine, I thought we had settled easily until I was crossing a street with the two kids and out of nowhere I wanted to cry.


I can’t even remember what it was that frustrated me. Maybe not finding a trolley or maybe one of the kids dropped something. I honestly don’t know what it was but it made me realize that I had been in denial about the magnitude of the move we had made. The move from South Africa to Australia had been harder on me than I had allowed myself to believe.


Now, I’m not saying we had it tough. I’m not saying that immigration breaks you, I’m just saying that there are challenges and obstacles that you’re not even aware of. Some of these sit in the back of your mind causing you stress that you’re not even aware of.


We love where we live

We love Sydney, we love the life we’re living. We’re grateful to have been given this opportunity but we’re under no illusions. It is not smooth sailing uprooting your entire life and moving somewhere completely new where you are just another anonymous face walking in a huge City.


What you don’t realise when you leave your home


What you don’t realize when you leave your home regardless of whether it’s your suburb, your City or your country is that you leave behind all your institutional knowledge.  You leave behind everything you knew about the place where you lived.


You leave behind all familiarity and all your “go-to” options. When you arrive in a new place, you don’t know where to go when the kids are sick. You don’t know where to pick up dinner quickly, where to buy a bag of ice in a hurry or who to trust in an emergency.

We had it easy in some respects 

In a lot of ways we had it easy when we got to Australia. We had friends, great friends who became a surrogate family.  My husband got a job within a week and we managed to secure good accomodation for a month from which to explore and discover our new home city.


A homely environment, access to a car, promise of employment make the war that is immigration winnable.


But that doesn’t mean that there aren’t a plethora of battles that you have to fight every day to keep yourself alive.


The first month of settling in Australia 

That first month was a whirlwind.

I can’t even remember much of it except that we had to live in the same clothes for a month waiting for our container. We also ate a lot of MacDonalds and went to bed at almost midnight every night.


Oh and our daughter decided she now needed to be eating solid food, the day after we arrived in Australia.


Thankfully my husband only started his job the month after we arrived so in many ways we were on some sort of adventure. Not quite a holiday but not really the daily grind.

When your new life begins


Before I knew it the month of adventure had passed and our new real life had to begin. My husband had to decipher public transport and start working. I had to unpack us into a new (tiny by South African standards) home and work out how to keep the kids alive and entertained between 7am and 7pm.

“The phrase ‘baptism by fire’ comes to mind.”


The daily difficulties

Even if you have all your bases covered, job, home and transport wise, and you know that in the long run you can make it, the everyday can be hard and bring you to the brink of tears. Everything is completely new. A trip to the store can take hours because you don’t know where anything is let alone what it looks like or which brand the family will not hate.


Driving around was so scary 

Another nightmare is driving around in a new City in a new car with two little kids. At times I found this to be a terrifying nightmare. I didn’t know where I was going or whether it would even be worth all the stress and anxiety. The whole experience would get a whole lot worse when I took a wrong turn and landed up on the other side of the world. With two kids shouting in the confines of the car I would still have to find my way home somehow.


New continent meant new germs


Travelling to a new continent as we learnt means new germs. Germs that you’ve never been exposed to. Consequently at least one of the family will get sick and probably more than once.


One of the worst experiences is when your child is ill and you don’t know what medication to give them even though its just a cough or the flu or where to find a pharmacy that may help. You definitely don’t know where to find a doctor. If by some luck you manage to ask someone where to find a doctor you will then get there (hopefully on time if you don’t get lost) and discover that you have no idea how the system works.


Added to this stress is how much it costs in Australia to see a doctor regardless of whether you are on government health care or not.


Nothing happens in isolation


The problem is that these little battles don’t happen in isolation. They are every part of your every day. Coupled with these challenges is the fact that your home is new and is missing a lot of the homeliness you had created in your previous home.


Everything is new, everything is confusing and everything takes a lot of time to learn. Huge patience is required on the part of every family member as you muddle through together.


Just getting on with settling in Australia

It is hard work starting out in a new place with kids. Thankfully, you don’t get the chance to sit down and feel sorry for yourself. There is no time. You can’t hope that they’ll miraculously feed or bath themselves. They definitely wont entertain themselves for long so you have just got to keep moving. And moving is what we did and what we have become accustomed to.


We’ve become explorers and adventurers always looking for something new to do. In a lot of ways this approach has been a good thing. We have experienced our new City in a way we never experienced our previous home City. Essentially, we’ve become Sydneysiders through exposure.


Almost a year into Settling in Australia

Things have not been easy. Our kids have been sick almost every month that we’ve been here. We’ve had lots of trips to the Emergency Department at the Hospital.


Unfortunately I was in hospital for a large portion of a month as a result of an scar ectopic pregnancy which needed medical intervention and ultimately chemotherapy. These things would have happened regardless of where we were living but it has made it a little harder to be so far away from family.


Having faced these challenges, the little ones and the more serious health problems we are still grateful to be here.


We definitely find peace in the decision we made.


Yes, it often feels like the rug has been pulled out from under your feet but you have to think of it as an adventure.  You have to grab all the opportunities that come your way. You have to get out and explore. And you have to say yes to the random strangers that invite you to sit with them at playgroup or the coffee shop.



Click on the links below for more posts in the series. 


The First Part: Deciding to leave South Africa

Part 2: Choosing Australia 

Part 3: Actually Leaving South Africa


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5 thoughts on “Immigrating Part 4: Settling in Australia 

  1. Thanks so much for writing this – you have put so many of my thoughts into words. We have been through the steps in instalments 1 & 2 and are planning on moving to Australia from South Africa in January. I hope your journey continues to be a positive one.

    1. Good Luck Tracy, I hope that you find the next stages peaceful, it will be hard but if you find peace in the decision you know that you’ve made the right choice for you!

      There are also so many fantastic communities within any area you settle in so just make sure you scour Facebook for a group in your area and you’ll find more friends than you can keep up with.

      Good luck and be sure to reach out.

  2. I just moved from Zimbabwe to South Africa and can relate to a lot of what you so wonderfully shared. Australia was plan A but coming from Zimbabwe, South Africa seems like paradise. We originally planned to stay in SA while working towards Australia but with so many of our friends already here, it’s becoming very tempting to stay… Thank you so much for sharing.

    1. From Zim to Aus seems like such a serious move it makes complete sense to me that you went to SA first, I am sure that there are thousands of Zimbos who have made the move to SA first (my parents and I are one of those as is my husband). It is so hard to move your whole life and to have to move twice just seems so daunting. You have to do what is right for you and your family and you can’t let anyone else dictate to you what they think is right for you. I’m glad you enjoyed the post and I hope that whatever you decide you find absolute peace in that decision. xx

  3. We moved from Sydney to NY for four years (now back home in Sydney) so I feel your pain. It’s an incredibly vulnerable time for the first few months. There needs to be a service that links you to someone in your area who you can call or txt for advice or directions when you need them..! Now there’s an idea ?.

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